By J. Elliott
Every time a new year rolls around, it brings with it a period of reflection. People use this time to reflect on their goals. Goals relating to their bodies, careers, families, house, cars, friendships, hobbies, etc… It is always an interesting thing to stop and take stock of where you are — and where you want to go.
When I was young and a lifetime looked like an eternity, goals were easier to come by and I set the next with the achievement of the last. My driver’s license at 16. Graduating high school and becoming an “adult” at 18. Getting into college. Turning 21. Graduating from college. Getting a good job. Getting married. Buying a house. All of those were easy. Set a goal, work towards it and the next one was always obvious.
What nobody tells you is what to do after those goals. For a lot of people, the next one is have children. But what if you don’t want to have children? What goal do you take up after buying the house? Life isn’t over and you’ve already stepped outside of the “conventional” expectation. So what now?
It’s hard to work towards a goal you haven’t set. R and I are comfortable and we are finally arriving at that confident place you reach in your 30’s where you like yourself and your life and no longer preoccupy yourself with what other people think. We have good jobs, are building good retirement plans, have a little extra money to spend from month to month. We love our hobbies and find knitting, the Tenntucky Fiber Arts non-profit, and Miniature Schnauzer fostering rewarding. But we needed a goal.
About a year ago, we had a discussion about what that might be. We decided we wanted to move to Europe while we were still young and unencumbered enough by responsibility to really enjoy it. R works for the Navy and so it was a no-brainer that we’d look for a job for her abroad and last November she found it.
All of that to say, “We’re moving… …again.”.
But this time, we’re moving to Sicily, Italy for five years.
It’ll be a slow and complicated process. R will move sometime in March and I will officially move in December, but it is happening and it is happening this year, in 2015.
There will be more developments in the coming months but this has entirely absorbed our lives since October when she applied.
2014 was dominated by: [Personal turmoil, family injuries, the Tenntucky Fiber Arts retreat, and Sicily].
2015 will be dominated by our gradual move across the world and then ? Who knows
I hope you all had a wonderful holiday season and a very Happy New Year! I am looking forward to sharing our move with you all!